Man have I been backsliding into my old friend Control. It’s okay though as most of the world seems to be joining me. I’m watching people doing all kinds of things to try to “stay safe”, protect others…and even police the behavior of people around them. Control patterns are often the first place someone noticesContinue reading “The four horsemen of control”
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Finding Guidance in Troubled Times
Once again, we can look to our Traditions to guide us as we navigate through difficult and uncharted ground. When faced with difficult life circumstances and relationship issues, the 12 Traditions can be the principles of our meetings as well as our interactions with others. Who hasn’t benefitted from Tradition 12’s reminder to place “principlesContinue reading “Finding Guidance in Troubled Times”
The Triangle from Hell
Helpful video discussing the victim/perpetrator/rescuer triangle so many of us often find ourselves in.
Loving Myself Back Into Wholeness
Bringing Compassion to our Personal Inventory by Charlie B I am Charlie, and I’m still recovering from the codependent survival patterns I learned so well in childhood. I’m also grateful I’ve come so far! So many of the program promises have come true for me in so many good ways! Yet I still have muchContinue reading “Loving Myself Back Into Wholeness”
What you are feeling is probably grief
Someone sent me this article the other day and then a different person sent me an amazing podcast by Brene Brown where she is talking with the same author, David Kessler. He is the world’s foremost expert on grief and co-wrote with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief through theContinue reading “What you are feeling is probably grief”
Life is teaching us
Staying calm in the midst of chaos and uncertainty has not been easy for me in my life. I feel triggered by the circumstances relating to this COVID 19 pandemic. The craziness of it. The isolation. The paranoia. The feeling of scarcity. The confusing and ever-changing information. It reminds me of my childhood. Of myContinue reading “Life is teaching us”
Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit
I had difficulty in my love relationships, friendships and relationships with co-workers and my family. Everything felt so difficult. Why did I keep getting fired from jobs, even from my own business? Why couldn’t men love me the way I needed to be loved? I know how to fix everyone else’s problems, why can’t I seemContinue reading “Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit”
Phone a Friend
Remember that game show? Who Wants To Be A Millionaire? They’d give the contestant 3 “life lines” one of which was to “phone a friend”. In recovery, it can sometimes seem like the hardest thing to do to pick up a phone and call someone to talk. Why is it so hard to ask forContinue reading “Phone a Friend”
Just for Now
By Stephanie Just for now, Rest in me, Nowhere to be, Nothing to do, No one to save. Just for now, Quiet your mind, No answers needed, Nothing to figure out Nothing to prove. Just for now, Relax your whole being, Knowing you are held, In an eternal embrace, By something greater than you. JustContinue reading “Just for Now”
CoDA Tool Tuesday-self-care
Put the oxygen mask on yourself first. Anyone who has ever flown in a plane has heard these instructions. It’s so well known that so many of us don’t even really pay attention while they are talking. It is good safety advice and even better life wisdom. Put your oxygen mask on yourself first. IfContinue reading “CoDA Tool Tuesday-self-care”