By John R. Three immediate and huge benefits for attending a Co-Dependents Anonymous Meeting: *Look it up. Don’t expect me to do your work.
Tag Archives: healthy behaviors
Self-compassion toward our bodies by Dr Kristin Neff
It’s common for us to feel uncomfortable about our bodies, especially after the holiday season. We may judge them as not thin enough or attractive enough or strong enough or young enough or healthy enough. An important part of self-compassion is extending kindness and care to the physical form we inhabit, appreciating its gifts ratherContinue reading “Self-compassion toward our bodies by Dr Kristin Neff”
hope for healthy relationships
Once upon a time, I became obsessed with a narcissist. All I wanted was for him to commit to me and me alone. We had so much in common. I loved him and he loved him. This was my unconscious pattern. I’d done it before in my past relationships. I tried everything I could thinkContinue reading “hope for healthy relationships”
The codependent parent trap
Parenting is hard. Being a codependent is challenging. Being a codependent parent is, well… something else. And even better, I find myself faced with the colliding specters of my own menopause and my daughter’s adolescence. The compulsive nature of my behaviors can be frustrating. For many years, I kept falling into a codependent parent trap.Continue reading “The codependent parent trap”
Love is an ability
I was listening to an interview of meditation teacher and author, Sharon Salzberg this morning. She quoted a line from a movie which said, ‘love is not a feeling, love is an ability”. She went on to ask what if we thought about love primarily as an ability? Sharon explained…That means it’s not in theContinue reading “Love is an ability”
be true to yourself
by Terrie C. I am a trauma survivor. I had difficulty feeling like I belonged in my family. I have struggled most of my life to feel like I belong. I feel fear in meetings because I choose not to identify myself as a codependent. And, I know, that to be true to myself, thatContinue reading “be true to yourself”
The Triangle from Hell
Helpful video discussing the victim/perpetrator/rescuer triangle so many of us often find ourselves in.
the power of connection
Studies have revealed that human connection can ease pain and reduce the symptoms of stress.
Meditation practice in difficult days…
Thanks to Tara Brach for providing this beautiful resource, an at home retreat. When the crowded Vietnamese refugee boats met with storms or pirates, if everyone panicked all would be lost. But if even one person on the boat remained calm and centered, it was enough. It showed the way for everyone to survive. ZenContinue reading “Meditation practice in difficult days…”
Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit
I had difficulty in my love relationships, friendships and relationships with co-workers and my family. Everything felt so difficult. Why did I keep getting fired from jobs, even from my own business? Why couldn’t men love me the way I needed to be loved? I know how to fix everyone else’s problems, why can’t I seemContinue reading “Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit”