100 % of the time, when I am triggered by a person, place or thing, it is because of me. The source of the trigger lies within me. ~ Terri Cole Many of us talk in terms of “being triggered”. Often we want to avoid being triggered or triggering someone else. I have learned overContinue reading “Healing Through Awareness: Managing Triggers Effectively”
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Self-Care Tips: Recognizing HALT to Improve Your Life
This week, I ignored the God given gift of my intuition and paid the price… literally. I drove angry, got pulled over and ticketed for speeding. Higher Power, help me slow down and become more self-aware. The acronym HALT means never get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, or too Tired. Each of these conditionsContinue reading “Self-Care Tips: Recognizing HALT to Improve Your Life”
Meditation
The upcoming online workshop, Journey to Healing, Creating Safety Within will include information on the tool of meditation… read more below on how the presenter came to a deeper connection with her inner world and her Higher Power through meditation. If you want to experience more on this topic, sign up now for the MarchContinue reading “Meditation”
Essential Components of Healing and Creating Safety Within
By Dana T. Self-compassion and Self-Kindness – What are our beliefs surrounding the practice of self-compassion and kindness towards ourselves? For many, there’s a belief that the harsher we are on ourselves, the safer we’ll be. Consequently, we often feel resistance when attempting to extend kindness and compassion to ourselves. It’s crucial to be awareContinue reading “Essential Components of Healing and Creating Safety Within”
Levels of Friendship
by Karen D (from 2022 ICC) Co-Dependents are famous for having unequal partners. Promise 6: I learn to see myself as equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners. This info was adapted from a workshop held at CoDA’s annual convention in 2022by Karen D called “Take My Advice, I’m NotContinue reading “Levels of Friendship”
Self-love is not selfish
Trust
It can be challenging to manage codependency at this time of year. Step 12 reminds us to practice these principles in all our affairs. Using the tools of the program we can navigate the waters ahead. With our Higher Power and our recovery community, we can face new challenges with courage and self-acceptance. We remember we are caredContinue reading “Trust”
Step 9-Amends Are Changes Not Apologies
“Made direct amends to such people, wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” Step 9 Many people find this step… challenging. Fortunately, in CoDA, we have a method for making amends. It helped me to hear someone say at a meeting, “you don’t apologize to the Constitution, you amend it”.Continue reading “Step 9-Amends Are Changes Not Apologies”
Breaking the barrier of perfectionism
I’m a double winner of sorts…recovering co-dependent and a recovering perfectionist.
Codependents often are other-focused. We often care too much about what others think about us. We believe the lie that our value comes from outside ourselves so it’s important to us that we appear perfect.
Benefits of Attending CoDA?
By John R. Three immediate and huge benefits for attending a Co-Dependents Anonymous Meeting: *Look it up. Don’t expect me to do your work.