100 % of the time, when I am triggered by a person, place or thing, it is because of me. The source of the trigger lies within me. ~ Terri Cole Many of us talk in terms of “being triggered”. Often we want to avoid being triggered or triggering someone else. I have learned overContinue reading “Healing Through Awareness: Managing Triggers Effectively”
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Daily Affirmations to Cultivate Patience
I am a patient person. It is okay to wait. There is no hurry. The more patient I am, the lighter I feel. Being patient helps me enjoy the life I have right in front of me. I trust the timing of my life.
Self-Care Tips: Recognizing HALT to Improve Your Life
This week, I ignored the God given gift of my intuition and paid the price… literally. I drove angry, got pulled over and ticketed for speeding. Higher Power, help me slow down and become more self-aware. The acronym HALT means never get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, or too Tired. Each of these conditionsContinue reading “Self-Care Tips: Recognizing HALT to Improve Your Life”
Wisdom
All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. ~Havelock Ellis The wisdom that we attempt to develop in recovery is how to balance the letting go and the holding on in our lives. Many of us have sunk into deep holes of crisis and despair by holdingContinue reading “Wisdom”
Courage to Receive
by Melinda H Dare to feel your desire. Dare to long for it, to feel the hunger in your soul, the ache in the absence of its fulfillment, and the pain that lets you know exactly how much you want it. Dare to speak it, to name it all, the hopes, the fears, the endless contradictions. Dare to let itContinue reading “Courage to Receive”
A Recovery Dream
by Anonymous MinnCoDA Member “My inner teenager had a dream…”The setting was a dream mix of the caretaker’s house at camp and the current Bass Lake house. There was a lot of beige carpet, and it was mostly daytime with that Minnesota silver daylight. Teenage me was so nervous, alarmed, and angry. She was aContinue reading “A Recovery Dream”
Step 9-Amends Are Changes Not Apologies
“Made direct amends to such people, wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” Step 9 Many people find this step… challenging. Fortunately, in CoDA, we have a method for making amends. It helped me to hear someone say at a meeting, “you don’t apologize to the Constitution, you amend it”.Continue reading “Step 9-Amends Are Changes Not Apologies”
Breaking the barrier of perfectionism
I’m a double winner of sorts…recovering co-dependent and a recovering perfectionist.
Codependents often are other-focused. We often care too much about what others think about us. We believe the lie that our value comes from outside ourselves so it’s important to us that we appear perfect.
Step 4
Step 4 requires us to do a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. This is the step where we begin to see our part in our own lives and relationships. In our inventory we include our behaviors and character defects that have been harmful. This step is not an invitation to be overly criticalContinue reading “Step 4”
Came To Believe
In this moment, I can believe that I am never alone; I can experience the sense of freedom that having a Higher Power offers me. I can remind myself that believing is also an action, and if I am willing to practice it, one moment at a time, I will develop faith. Step Two PrayerContinue reading “Came To Believe”