100 % of the time, when I am triggered by a person, place or thing, it is because of me. The source of the trigger lies within me. ~ Terri Cole Many of us talk in terms of “being triggered”. Often we want to avoid being triggered or triggering someone else. I have learned overContinue reading “Healing Through Awareness: Managing Triggers Effectively”
Category Archives: codependency
Self-Care Tips: Recognizing HALT to Improve Your Life
This week, I ignored the God given gift of my intuition and paid the price… literally. I drove angry, got pulled over and ticketed for speeding. Higher Power, help me slow down and become more self-aware. The acronym HALT means never get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, or too Tired. Each of these conditionsContinue reading “Self-Care Tips: Recognizing HALT to Improve Your Life”
Wisdom
All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. ~Havelock Ellis The wisdom that we attempt to develop in recovery is how to balance the letting go and the holding on in our lives. Many of us have sunk into deep holes of crisis and despair by holdingContinue reading “Wisdom”
Courage to Receive
by Melinda H Dare to feel your desire. Dare to long for it, to feel the hunger in your soul, the ache in the absence of its fulfillment, and the pain that lets you know exactly how much you want it. Dare to speak it, to name it all, the hopes, the fears, the endless contradictions. Dare to let itContinue reading “Courage to Receive”
Essential Components of Healing and Creating Safety Within
By Dana T. Self-compassion and Self-Kindness – What are our beliefs surrounding the practice of self-compassion and kindness towards ourselves? For many, there’s a belief that the harsher we are on ourselves, the safer we’ll be. Consequently, we often feel resistance when attempting to extend kindness and compassion to ourselves. It’s crucial to be awareContinue reading “Essential Components of Healing and Creating Safety Within”
Levels of Friendship
by Karen D (from 2022 ICC) Co-Dependents are famous for having unequal partners. Promise 6: I learn to see myself as equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners. This info was adapted from a workshop held at CoDA’s annual convention in 2022by Karen D called “Take My Advice, I’m NotContinue reading “Levels of Friendship”
Self-love is not selfish
Step 12
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Step 12 What is the message? As Melody Beattie puts it, “our message is one of hope, love, comfort, health – a better way of life,Continue reading “Step 12”
A Recovery Dream
by Anonymous MinnCoDA Member “My inner teenager had a dream…”The setting was a dream mix of the caretaker’s house at camp and the current Bass Lake house. There was a lot of beige carpet, and it was mostly daytime with that Minnesota silver daylight. Teenage me was so nervous, alarmed, and angry. She was aContinue reading “A Recovery Dream”
Step 11
Hmmmm… Why a picture of a plug in an outlet? Keep reading. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out. Step 11 In Step 3 we made a decision to turnContinue reading “Step 11”