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What is codependence?

We found in each of our lives that codependence is a most deeply-rooted, compulsive behavior and that it is born out of our… dysfunctional family systems.

~CoDA Welcome

Codependence is a disease that affects our lives in many ways; our personal lives, work, health, and spiritual growth can all be impacted. If left untreated, it causes us to become more destructive to ourselves and others. Our behaviors and their roots can often be obstacles to maintaining healthy, nurturing relationships.

We have found these patterns of behavior fall into five major categories: denial, low self-esteem, compliance, control and avoidance.

Girl looking at her reflection in a lake of water

How do I know if I am co-dependent?

It all begins with an honest look at ourselves.

~Co-Dependents Anonymous Book

CoDA is a non-professional fellowship and offers no diagnostic criteria for codependence. We do provide a list of 55 patterns and characteristics which can help us to identify our codependent behaviors. We believe recovery begins with an honest self-diagnosis.

Answers to questions like the following can help us determine how we’ve looked to others to provide for our emotional well-being.

  • Do I control others to relieve my fears?
  • Do I let others control me for fear of their abuse or neglect?
  • Do I adapt or change my behavior for others?
  • Do I get my sense of worth as a person from others?
  • Do I avoid others in order to feel safe?

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Is CoDA right for me?

The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships.

~The Preamble

CoDA is a 12 Step Fellowship and peer support group. It aims to create a safe environment for those wishing recovery from dysfunctional relationships, providing anonymity and freedom from judgement or feedback. In CoDA we share our own experience, strength, and hope. We do not give advice.

Other 12 Step groups, like AA or Al-anon support people or friends of people, who have addictions such as alcohol. CoDA supports people to create healthy relationships starting with themselves, whether or not addictions exist in their lives.

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Find A Local Meeting

email questions to us at or through our Contact Us page.

in person meetings now open:

Saturdays 10:30 a.m. (as of JUNE 12th)
East Side Neighborhood Services,
1700 2nd Ave NE, Minneapolis, MN 55413

Saturdays 12pm
Suburban North Alano Club,

15486 Territorial Rd, Maple Grove, MN 55369

Mondays 7:30pm
Gratitude Group
5748 Nicollet Ave
Minneapolis, MN 55419
Take the stairway upstairs (above the vet clinic)

Tuesdays 6:30pm
Beautiful Savior Lutheran Church
5005 Northwest Blvd, Plymouth MN 55442
in the Resource Room, Enter the building through the main entrance (DOOR A)

Tuesdays 8pm
Elk River Alano Club,

9231 Odean Avenue NE, Otsego MN 55330

Tuesdays 7pm
Lakers Alano Club

4646 Colorado St SE, Prior Lake MN 55372

Wednesdays 12-1:30 pm
(CoDA meeting for women)
Colonial Church

6200 Colonial Way, Edina MN 55436

Thursdays 7pm Starting June 3, The Chaska group will meet as a hybrid (both in-person and on Zoom at the same time).
Crown of Glory Lutheran Church
1141 Cardinal St, Chaska, MN 55318. Enter in the main doors and follow the signs.
For the Zoom link to join the meeting remotely, please text Rita at 952-334-9206.

If you prefer an online meeting, find a list of local Zoom CoDA meetings by clicking the link below.

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