In this moment, I live my life in a new way.As I continue to open my heart and mind, little by little,one day at a time, I reveal my true self, mend my relationships,and touch God. Step 10 Prayer The 10th Step Prayer is my favorite one of the 12. What a hope-filled affirmation ofContinue reading “Step 10”
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Step 4
Step 4 requires us to do a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. This is the step where we begin to see our part in our own lives and relationships. In our inventory we include our behaviors and character defects that have been harmful. This step is not an invitation to be overly criticalContinue reading “Step 4”
Feelings wheel
Codependents often have difficulty identifying what they are feeling. In recovery, I am aware of my feelings and identify them, often in the moment. I know the difference between my thoughts and feelings. There are many tools to help as we learn to identify, honor and express our feelings. Here is one some of usContinue reading “Feelings wheel”
be true to yourself
by Terrie C. I am a trauma survivor. I had difficulty feeling like I belonged in my family. I have struggled most of my life to feel like I belong. I feel fear in meetings because I choose not to identify myself as a codependent. And, I know, that to be true to myself, thatContinue reading “be true to yourself”
The four horsemen of control
Man have I been backsliding into my old friend Control. It’s okay though as most of the world seems to be joining me. I’m watching people doing all kinds of things to try to “stay safe”, protect others…and even police the behavior of people around them. Control patterns are often the first place someone noticesContinue reading “The four horsemen of control”
Finding Guidance in Troubled Times
Once again, we can look to our Traditions to guide us as we navigate through difficult and uncharted ground. When faced with difficult life circumstances and relationship issues, the 12 Traditions can be the principles of our meetings as well as our interactions with others. Who hasn’t benefitted from Tradition 12’s reminder to place “principlesContinue reading “Finding Guidance in Troubled Times”
Choosing the recovery side of the street
by Terrie C I affirm that the codependent behaviors that I learned helped me survive. I honor them. It is also true that they are a dysfunction that keeps me from joy. Now, I wish to live more on the recovery pattern side of the street. Learning takes place from repetition. Especially when old habitsContinue reading “Choosing the recovery side of the street”