I am a patient person. It is okay to wait. There is no hurry. The more patient I am, the lighter I feel. Being patient helps me enjoy the life I have right in front of me. I trust the timing of my life.
Tag Archives: letting go
Wisdom
All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. ~Havelock Ellis The wisdom that we attempt to develop in recovery is how to balance the letting go and the holding on in our lives. Many of us have sunk into deep holes of crisis and despair by holdingContinue reading “Wisdom”
Trust
It can be challenging to manage codependency at this time of year. Step 12 reminds us to practice these principles in all our affairs. Using the tools of the program we can navigate the waters ahead. With our Higher Power and our recovery community, we can face new challenges with courage and self-acceptance. We remember we are caredContinue reading “Trust”
Step 11
Hmmmm… Why a picture of a plug in an outlet? Keep reading. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out. Step 11 In Step 3 we made a decision to turnContinue reading “Step 11”
Practice Non-resistance
Surrender only hurts until we do it. Life is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to. Can I accept and allow instead of resisting? Can I practice with the small things?… the feeling I don’t want to feel… what I need to do next… uncertainty… aloneness…? Pain x Resistance = Suffering Pain is a partContinue reading “Practice Non-resistance”
Steps 6 & 7
adapted from CoDA’s “12 Steps Handbook” Step 6: “Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.”What does it mean to be entirely ready? In CoDA, we learn that it means completely prepared. The first five steps are a large part of that preparation. What we need now is willingness. What areContinue reading “Steps 6 & 7”
Have Your Way
by a recovering co-dependent 🙂 This song by Britt Nicole helped me when I was new to recovery and going through a difficult time in my life. I was learning how to develop trust in a Higher Power. Surrender was unfamiliar to me. Fear of the unknown future was paralyzing. The lyrics, especially in theContinue reading “Have Your Way”
hope for healthy relationships
Once upon a time, I became obsessed with a narcissist. All I wanted was for him to commit to me and me alone. We had so much in common. I loved him and he loved him. This was my unconscious pattern. I’d done it before in my past relationships. I tried everything I could thinkContinue reading “hope for healthy relationships”
The codependent parent trap
Parenting is hard. Being a codependent is challenging. Being a codependent parent is, well… something else. And even better, I find myself faced with the colliding specters of my own menopause and my daughter’s adolescence. The compulsive nature of my behaviors can be frustrating. For many years, I kept falling into a codependent parent trap.Continue reading “The codependent parent trap”
The Winding Road
– by Beth I don’t know about you, but my life journey feels like it has had so many twists and turns within that I lost sight of what was right or wrong and how to make a decision without feeling any fear that the decision would be the wrong one. Just when I thoughtContinue reading “The Winding Road”