Parenting is hard. Being a codependent is challenging. Being a codependent parent is, well… something else. And even better, I find myself faced with the colliding specters of my own menopause and my daughter’s adolescence. The compulsive nature of my behaviors can be frustrating. For many years, I kept falling into a codependent parent trap.Continue reading “The codependent parent trap”
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Accepting all parts of ourselves
The Self is who I truly am. I know I’m in Self when I am compassionate, curious and connected. I know I am in Self when I accept, without judgment, all my parts…even those that may create problems in my life. I know ALL my parts are trying to help and protect me in theirContinue reading “Accepting all parts of ourselves”
The Triangle from Hell
Helpful video discussing the victim/perpetrator/rescuer triangle so many of us often find ourselves in.
Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit
I had difficulty in my love relationships, friendships and relationships with co-workers and my family. Everything felt so difficult. Why did I keep getting fired from jobs, even from my own business? Why couldn’t men love me the way I needed to be loved? I know how to fix everyone else’s problems, why can’t I seemContinue reading “Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit”
True Happiness: Realizing Well-Being
True Happiness: Realizing Well-Being – Well being is the deep contentment that arises from a relaxed, wakeful presence. This talk explores the beliefs and habits that contract us away from presence, and several key ways we can nourish our natural capacity for happiness. Lots of messages in this podcast that resonate with what I amContinue reading “True Happiness: Realizing Well-Being”
The second arrow
by Rita E. “In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. And with this second arrow comes the possibility of choice.” ~The Buddha We cannot control the painful experiences we endured as children or mistakes we made in the past, and because we areContinue reading “The second arrow”
Coda Tool Tuesday…CoDA Meetings
This is not a self help program. It’s mutual support. I can read and learn on my own and that’s all fine and dandy but for me, it can’t replace the experience I get in attending regular CoDA meetings. I, like so many, had read Melody Beattie’s book, Co-dependent No More. If that’s all itContinue reading “Coda Tool Tuesday…CoDA Meetings”
CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness
When I choose not to forgive its like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Forgiveness is a tool that helps me move forward. I know I don’t do it for the other guy, I do it for me. So I don’t have to carry the baggage anymore. It doesn’t mean IContinue reading “CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness”
Why can’t I end a bad relationship?
The weird thing about abandonment is that I feel it even if I’m the one ending the relationship. This part of my codependency is a big part of why I tend to stay in harmful situations too long. Perhaps you are reading this because you are in a relationship with someone you wish would change. Continue reading “Why can’t I end a bad relationship?”
The View Is Worth The Work
codependency recovery insights gained while hiking on the superior hiking trail