This week, I ignored the God given gift of my intuition and paid the price… literally. I drove angry, got pulled over and ticketed for speeding. Higher Power, help me slow down and become more self-aware. The acronym HALT means never get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, or too Tired. Each of these conditionsContinue reading “Self-Care Tips: Recognizing HALT to Improve Your Life”
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My recovery story
By Anna H My relationship with my partner had become strained in the past week. In our attempts to try to communicate with each other about our own needs, we seemed to be triggering each other, and it felt like neither of us was doing a good job of really hearing each other, because ourContinue reading “My recovery story”
Levels of Friendship
by Karen D (from 2022 ICC) Co-Dependents are famous for having unequal partners. Promise 6: I learn to see myself as equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners. This info was adapted from a workshop held at CoDA’s annual convention in 2022by Karen D called “Take My Advice, I’m NotContinue reading “Levels of Friendship”
Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit
I had difficulty in my love relationships, friendships and relationships with co-workers and my family. Everything felt so difficult. Why did I keep getting fired from jobs, even from my own business? Why couldn’t men love me the way I needed to be loved? I know how to fix everyone else’s problems, why can’t I seemContinue reading “Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit”
What is detachment? And how do I let go?
The tool of detachment is a powerful way we can deal with situations that could harm us. It is a choice to disengage emotionally from people or situations. We strive to detach with love for ourselves and others knowing that we are not responsible for the behavior of others and they are not responsible forContinue reading “What is detachment? And how do I let go?”
Why can’t I end a bad relationship?
The weird thing about abandonment is that I feel it even if I’m the one ending the relationship. This part of my codependency is a big part of why I tend to stay in harmful situations too long. Perhaps you are reading this because you are in a relationship with someone you wish would change. Continue reading “Why can’t I end a bad relationship?”