The tool of detachment is a powerful way we can deal with situations that could harm us. It is a choice to disengage emotionally from people or situations. We strive to detach with love for ourselves and others knowing that we are not responsible for the behavior of others and they are not responsible forContinue reading “What is detachment? And how do I let go?”
Category Archives: tools of recovery
Serenity Now!
It’s CoDA tool Tuesday and I find myself in a place that requires one of my favorite tools…acceptance. I’m at the DMV. As I walked in with hopefully all the papers needed to do my renewals, I was greeted by a smiling woman who informed me that the wait time would be an hour andContinue reading “Serenity Now!”
Coda Tool Tuesday…CoDA Meetings
This is not a self help program. It’s mutual support. I can read and learn on my own and that’s all fine and dandy but for me, it can’t replace the experience I get in attending regular CoDA meetings. I, like so many, had read Melody Beattie’s book, Co-dependent No More. If that’s all itContinue reading “Coda Tool Tuesday…CoDA Meetings”
CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness
When I choose not to forgive its like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Forgiveness is a tool that helps me move forward. I know I don’t do it for the other guy, I do it for me. So I don’t have to carry the baggage anymore. It doesn’t mean IContinue reading “CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness”
CoDA Tool Tuesday!
There are so many tools to help us in our journey of recovery from codependency. Here’s an excerpt written by the CoDA communications committee just in time for the holidays…. How do codependents take care of themselves during the stress of the holidays? Here are some suggestions: 1. Go to as many meetings as youContinue reading “CoDA Tool Tuesday!”
The Falling Star
by DeAnn B. I’m very grateful for my new journey in CoDA. I’m learning acceptance and surrender, about trusting my Higher Power and the light that’s been placed within me to have my own experience, strength and hope that is a joy to share in the fellowship of others.I wrote this in about one minuteContinue reading “The Falling Star”
Practicing gratitude
People who live wholeheartedly actively practice gratitude. On this day of national Thanksgiving it’s nice to reflect on the positive benefits we can gain from a regular, daily gratitude practice. Gratitude improves our emotional wellbeing and motivation, gives us better sleep and for me, can even reverse a shame spiral! We all know about gratitudeContinue reading “Practicing gratitude”
Choosing the recovery side of the street
by Terrie C I affirm that the codependent behaviors that I learned helped me survive. I honor them. It is also true that they are a dysfunction that keeps me from joy. Now, I wish to live more on the recovery pattern side of the street. Learning takes place from repetition. Especially when old habitsContinue reading “Choosing the recovery side of the street”
Why can’t I end a bad relationship?
The weird thing about abandonment is that I feel it even if I’m the one ending the relationship. This part of my codependency is a big part of why I tend to stay in harmful situations too long. Perhaps you are reading this because you are in a relationship with someone you wish would change. Continue reading “Why can’t I end a bad relationship?”
The 10th Step…
Step 10 “offers us not only consistency, but also continued progress in our continued relationships. Continuing to take our personal inventory keeps us ready to change our codependent behaviors. Some of our habits are ingrained. Our goal, however, is to make consistent progress. We look for familiar codependent behaviors and areas where our boundaries withContinue reading “The 10th Step…”