As we step into 2023, we are likely to focus on the ways our lives have fallen short of our expectations. We may dream of everything we want to accomplish or changes we would like to make so that the year is happier and more fulfilling than the last one. Feelings of satisfaction often stemContinue reading “Step in 2023 with intention”
Category Archives: tools of recovery
Starting a Meeting
People start new meetings for many reasons. Some may be isolated from established CoDA meetings because of inconvenient meeting times or distance, or live somewhere with no regional meetings at all. Even those not isolated from existing meetings may wish to start a new meeting, one that meets at a different time or has a different format or focus.Continue reading “Starting a Meeting”
Self-compassion toward our bodies by Dr Kristin Neff
It’s common for us to feel uncomfortable about our bodies, especially after the holiday season. We may judge them as not thin enough or attractive enough or strong enough or young enough or healthy enough. An important part of self-compassion is extending kindness and care to the physical form we inhabit, appreciating its gifts ratherContinue reading “Self-compassion toward our bodies by Dr Kristin Neff”
Step 9 Trauma-Informed
by Terrie C. The Aqua CoDA book for Step 8, which is the preparation step for making amends, advises that the first person we need to have on our list is ourselves. We have harmed ourselves the most and been unable to escape ourselves. Yet, what most often happens is that we skip over that,Continue reading “Step 9 Trauma-Informed”
step 11, spiritual awareness
by Terrie C. The principle of Step 11 is SPIRITUAL AWARENESS. Prayer means asking. Meditation is a form of listening. AWARENESS comes from recognizing that we have had a Higher Power who cares for us, even when we may be not in touch with that knowledge. My experience of prayer is asking the Higher PowerContinue reading “step 11, spiritual awareness”
Justice
an essay on Step 9 by Terrie C. In the Aqua CoDA book for Step 8 which is the preparation step for making amends it advises that the first person we need to have on our list is ourselves. That we have harmed ourselves the most and been unable to escape ourselves. Yet, what mostContinue reading “Justice”
The Winding Road
– by Beth I don’t know about you, but my life journey feels like it has had so many twists and turns within that I lost sight of what was right or wrong and how to make a decision without feeling any fear that the decision would be the wrong one. Just when I thoughtContinue reading “The Winding Road”
Perseverance
by Terrie C I am a survivor of childhood trauma and also ongoing trauma. In recovery, it has been important to me to acknowledge my successes as well as my mistakes. In the book THE ADDICTIVE ORGANIZATION by Anne Wilson Schaef and Diane Fassel, they describe codependent behaviors as a fatal disease and say, “InContinue reading “Perseverance”
Journey through the 12 Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous
Give a listen to CoDA Founders-Ken and Mary- as they give a talk based on the CoDA Aqua Book. (Event presented to CoDA Tucson Sept 5, 2020 via Zoom)
be true to yourself
by Terrie C. I am a trauma survivor. I had difficulty feeling like I belonged in my family. I have struggled most of my life to feel like I belong. I feel fear in meetings because I choose not to identify myself as a codependent. And, I know, that to be true to myself, thatContinue reading “be true to yourself”