by Terrie C. I am a trauma survivor. I had difficulty feeling like I belonged in my family. I have struggled most of my life to feel like I belong. I feel fear in meetings because I choose not to identify myself as a codependent. And, I know, that to be true to myself, thatContinue reading “be true to yourself”
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finding personal healing in recovery
Many codependents suffer from the effects of trauma. The tools of co-dependents anonymous along with self-compassion can help the healing process. It is an individual growth process.
Step 11-finding my higher power
The principle of Step 11 is SPIRITUAL AWARENESS. Prayer means asking. Meditation means listening. One of the things I love about this step is that it gives permission to define our own Higher Power. What does my spirit tell me? Many experiences over the last 40 years of recovery work have brought me giftsContinue reading “Step 11-finding my higher power”
There’s a hole in my sidewalk
Autobiography in Five Short ChaptersBy Portia Nelson Chapter OneI walk down the street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I fall in.I am lost …. I am helpless.It isn’t my fault.It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter TwoI walk down the street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I pretend that I don’tContinue reading “There’s a hole in my sidewalk”
LOVING MYSELF BACK INTO WHOLENESS
Bringing Compassion to our Personal Inventory by Charlie B I am Charlie, and I’m still recovering from the co-dependent survival patterns I learned so well in childhood. I’m also grateful I’ve come so far! So many of the program promises have come true for me in so many good ways! Yet I still have muchContinue reading “LOVING MYSELF BACK INTO WHOLENESS”
life is teaching us
Staying calm in the midst of chaos and uncertainty has not been easy for me in my life. I feel triggered by the circumstances relating to this COVID 19 pandemic. The craziness of it. The isolation. The paranoia. The feeling of scarcity. The confusing and ever-changing information. It reminds me of my childhood. Of myContinue reading “life is teaching us”
Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit
I had difficulty in my love relationships, friendships and relationships with co-workers and my family. Everything felt so difficult. Why did I keep getting — Read on thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/welcome-to-recovery-from-codependency/
grow and let go
The only thing that makes life possible is permanent, intolerable uncertainty: not knowing what comes next. Ursula LeGuin The world around us changes constantly. Trees turn from green to beautiful shades of yellow, orange, and red in the fall. Yet, even if we watched the trees carefully, every minute of the day, we could notContinue reading “grow and let go”
detachment
by Terrie C.Abuse wounds our spirits. Living with the effects of abuse is too devastating for most people to bear without help. Detachment is a tool for recovering people. Through detachment we learn we were not responsible for the abuse done to us. We also learn we cannot control whether the perpetrator chooses to acceptContinue reading “detachment”
Coda Tool Tuesday…CoDA Meetings
This is not a self help program. It’s mutual support. I can read and learn on my own and that’s all fine and dandy but for me, it can’t replace the experience I get in attending regular CoDA meetings. I, like so many, had read Melody Beattie’s book, Co-dependent No More. If that’s all itContinue reading “Coda Tool Tuesday…CoDA Meetings”