We admitted we were powerless over others- that our lives had become unmanageable. Step One of Co-Dependents Anonymous My home group focuses on the step corresponding to the month. January is one, February…two, etc. So this week’s CoDA Tool Tuesday piece is on step one. Step one is a tool I use all the time.Continue reading “Step One”
Author Archives: RM
What is detachment? And how do I let go?
The tool of detachment is a powerful way we can deal with situations that could harm us. It is a choice to disengage emotionally from people or situations. We strive to detach with love for ourselves and others knowing that we are not responsible for the behavior of others and they are not responsible forContinue reading “What is detachment? And how do I let go?”
Serenity Now!
It’s CoDA tool Tuesday and I find myself in a place that requires one of my favorite tools…acceptance. I’m at the DMV. As I walked in with hopefully all the papers needed to do my renewals, I was greeted by a smiling woman who informed me that the wait time would be an hour andContinue reading “Serenity Now!”
CoDA Meetings
This is not a self help program. It’s mutual support. I can read and learn on my own and that’s all fine and dandy but for me, it can’t replace the experience I get in attending regular CoDA meetings. I, like so many, had read Melody Beattie’s book, Co-dependent No More. If that’s all itContinue reading “CoDA Meetings”
CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness
When I choose not to forgive its like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Forgiveness is a tool that helps me move forward. I know I don’t do it for the other guy, I do it for me. So I don’t have to carry the baggage anymore. It doesn’t mean IContinue reading “CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness”
CoDA Tool Tuesday!
There are so many tools to help us in our journey of recovery from codependency. Here’s an excerpt written by the CoDA communications committee just in time for the holidays…. How do codependents take care of themselves during the stress of the holidays? Here are some suggestions: 1. Go to as many meetings as youContinue reading “CoDA Tool Tuesday!”
The Chameleon
Chameleoning. My spell checker doesn’t recognize it. I just hate when we take a noun and use it like a verb…adulting, Googling… It’s just that I have a hard time finding a better word to describe what I do when I change who I am to please someone else, to fit in, to avoid conflict,Continue reading “The Chameleon”
The Falling Star
by DeAnn B. I’m very grateful for my new journey in CoDA. I’m learning acceptance and surrender, about trusting my Higher Power and the light that’s been placed within me to have my own experience, strength and hope that is a joy to share in the fellowship of others.I wrote this in about one minuteContinue reading “The Falling Star”
Feeling my feelings
by CM (compassionate mess) 😉 “Our emotions drive us to recreate situations in which we will feel the feelings we need to face. We do not have to do anything except allow ourselves to feel them.” My work history is full of losses. I look back and see how I’ve repeated a pattern of hangingContinue reading “Feeling my feelings”
Practicing gratitude
People who live wholeheartedly actively practice gratitude. On this day of national Thanksgiving it’s nice to reflect on the positive benefits we can gain from a regular, daily gratitude practice. Gratitude improves our emotional wellbeing and motivation, gives us better sleep and for me, can even reverse a shame spiral! We all know about gratitudeContinue reading “Practicing gratitude”