Helpful video discussing the victim/perpetrator/rescuer triangle so many of us often find ourselves in.
Category Archives: relationships
Loving Myself Back Into Wholeness
Bringing Compassion to our Personal Inventory by Charlie B I am Charlie, and I’m still recovering from the codependent survival patterns I learned so well in childhood. I’m also grateful I’ve come so far! So many of the program promises have come true for me in so many good ways! Yet I still have muchContinue reading “Loving Myself Back Into Wholeness”
the power of connection
Studies have revealed that human connection can ease pain and reduce the symptoms of stress.
Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit
I had difficulty in my love relationships, friendships and relationships with co-workers and my family. Everything felt so difficult. Why did I keep getting fired from jobs, even from my own business? Why couldn’t men love me the way I needed to be loved? I know how to fix everyone else’s problems, why can’t I seemContinue reading “Welcome to Recovery From Codependency | The Phoenix Spirit”
CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness
When I choose not to forgive its like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Forgiveness is a tool that helps me move forward. I know I don’t do it for the other guy, I do it for me. So I don’t have to carry the baggage anymore. It doesn’t mean IContinue reading “CoDA Tool Tuesday…Forgiveness”
The Chameleon
Chameleoning. My spell checker doesn’t recognize it. I just hate when we take a noun and use it like a verb…adulting, Googling… It’s just that I have a hard time finding a better word to describe what I do when I change who I am to please someone else, to fit in, to avoid conflict,Continue reading “The Chameleon”
Why can’t I end a bad relationship?
The weird thing about abandonment is that I feel it even if I’m the one ending the relationship. This part of my codependency is a big part of why I tend to stay in harmful situations too long. Perhaps you are reading this because you are in a relationship with someone you wish would change. Continue reading “Why can’t I end a bad relationship?”