four parts of the CoDA program…
attending CoDA meetings
Attending meetings is necessary for recovery in the program. Individual recovery does not happen in isolation. Meetings are not all the same. There are open and closed meetings, Step or CoDA big book meetings, speaker and topic meetings. Most meetings are open to both men and women although there are meetings for just men or just women. CoDA suggests a person attends six meetings before they decide if CoDA is right for them.
Most meetings read CoDA’s Preamble, Welcome, 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. Many also read through the Recovery Patterns of Codependence and the 12 Promises. These foundational documents are tools that many of us have found helpful in our recovery journeys. You can find links to all these and more on the material & literature page.
sharing & fellowship
Sharing is our way of identification. We share our experience, strength and hope with others. Through listening and sharing with others in recovery, we find we are not alone. Everyone is given a chance to share but no one is forced to share.
Fellowship can help end the isolation and give you a new feeling of belonging. Codependents may get together before, after or outside of meetings to share and socialize. MinnCoDA encourages individuals and groups to plan fun events and invite others to join in. Fellowship gives people a chance to ask questions, receive appropriate feedback and practice new skills. Check out our fellowship events and service pages for more on this…
working the steps in CoDA
You may be asking yourself, “How do I stop being codependent?” or “Can I recover from codependency?” Applying the Steps and practicing the Traditions helps us to realize many of our problems have a solution. Working the Steps means to use them in a personal program of recovery. The Steps are a suggested program and not a requirement for membership in CoDA. It is through working the Steps that the most progress can be gained.
You can work the Steps at your own pace, alone, with a sponsor or a group. Some helpful tools for working through the Steps include the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions Workbook of Co-dependents Anonymous and Working the Steps as a Group.
Sponsors are recovering codependents who are willing to share their experience, strength and hope with us. They are who we call for help when we are confused or overwhelmed. They can also be friends who work the program with us. Other ways to find sponsorship support include co-sponsorship and group sponsorship. You and another member may co-sponsor each other, sharing what you are learning with each other. Some members have started sponsorship groups which meet regularly to share and work the program.
Sponsoring others in the program is a way to deepen our own recovery, practicing good boundaries and other recovery skills. If you are ready to step up in service by sponsoring others, find more guidance by clicking on Sponsorship in the heading above.